Sunday December 3, 2006

Did You Ever Do Something That May Not Have Been Wise?

I did.  Today!

 Early this morning, while Cerwin and I were enjoying our first cup of coffee, we were discussing how I had gotten myself into trouble earlier in the week – a few times – due to poor communication.  We were having a great conversation, but he still seemed to have trouble understanding how or why I came to an incorrect conclusion on a certain subject, with the small amount of information I was given.

I was in a great mood – not angry or hurt – when the idea came to me!  (It is never wise to do something like this if you are dealing with those feelings.)

“I am going to stay home from church today and not tell him.”  (I ‘m sure the idea was from the Lord.)  

I have never done that in all 43 years of our marriage!

While he got ready for Sunday School, I stayed in the La-Z-Boy – doing stuff on my laptop.  Prior to this, I had given him no clue that I was staying home.  When he was ready for church, and came to the living room, he looked a little confused – but true to his laid back personalty, didn’t say anything.  (It was difficult to keep a serious face.)

After about five minutes, I said, “So why do you think I haven’t gotten dressed yet?”

He said, “You aren’t going to Sunday School?”

“Do you wonder why I’m not going?”

“I don’t know, is something wrong”, He asked?

“No, I am doing just fine.”

Then I asked what conclusions he had come to when I just sat here, didn’t talk, and didn’t get dressed for church.  He said he was puzzled because I always communicate my intentions.  He said a variety of things went through his mind – none of which were correct, by the way!

I assured him that I was not tired, upset, or sick – just having a bit of fun to get a point across as to how easy it is to arrive at an incorrect conclusion when there is poor communication.

He smiled and said, “Got it.”

I still can’t believe I did that.  Imagine how many people at church assume I was sick or away somewhere when they saw Cerwin alone – because they didn’t know the facts.

(After a “crazy” week, it was nice to have a relaxing couple of hours alone and watch a few church services on TV – in my housecoat.)

Just so I don’t leave you with incorrect communication – Cerwin is the best husband in the world – POSITIVELY THE BEST. He is laid back in personality, and doesn’t always think about the value of communicating important information to me.  I doubt that my “fabulous” example will change that. 

I read this to him and he approved the message.