It has been a sobering week for us – after attending four funeral visitations between Saturday, August 21 and Friday, August 27.
I always pray for words of love and comfort when I talk to family members and am aware that no words can take away their pain.
First there was Vernon – my step-brother who was killed in a motorcycle accident.
Cancer was a culprit in the deaths of Marlin (a friend from church), Betty (Cerwin’s aunt) and Shirley (a neighbor). All had been fairly active until recent weeks.
Funerals “hit home” in a real way as I get older. Vernon and Shirley were younger than me.
As I pray for the spouses left behind I think about the reality of suddenly having to live alone after being married for many years. Sam and Betty were married for 67 years and still active in their church and business.
After attending the burial service for Aunt Betty, we were each encouraged to choose a flower from the top of her casket. I thought I was getting one lily, but when I plucked it from the bouquet, I had this delightful stem of two blooms and six buds.
The first two blooms lasted a few days, today there are four new flowers.
They don’t look as different from the photo above as it appears. Lighting in our kitchen made the difference.
I will continue to pray for the spouses: Mabel, Sue, Sam and Ben and their families.
Life is so real – so painful – and yet filled with hope and promises to those who are walking with the Lord.
? Well written.
Thanks, Judi.
Do not say, “I understand what you are going through.” No two situations are alike and even if you went through something similar, it is not a helpful word. A hug and a tear with or without words is very appreciated.
Thank you, Nancy. As Doris Jean mentioned, I too always ask the Lord what to say. Usually it is “I care” and a hug.
Yes, Cordy. People will remember our presence rather than our words.
I agree with you, Nancy.
My word, what a sad, sobering week! I’m so sorry to hear this — it is a sad fact of life that our friends and families leave this world at about our ages, leaving behind families who are devastated by their loss. It is always hard to know what to say, but I’ve decided a simple “I’m sorry,” accompanied when appropriate by a hug is best!
Hugs always say, “I care. I hurt for you.”
I conclude that in this season of life for us, we recognize that life is temporary.
For sure.
Got a brief glimpse of what it must be like the 9 weeks Bob was in hospital -couldn’t visit (see) him. It was 6-7 weeks before we could do facetime. I didn’t realize all the things he did (took for granted after 65 years). With his memory problem he does less than before – but we are treasuring what time God gives us – each day is really a “gift”.
Love and blessings to you, Helen. Thanks for sharing.